Psychotherapy & Couples Psychotherapy
It’s natural to try and avoid painful feelings and seek out more pleasurable distractions in life. The way internal struggles tend to be handled is often due to momentary learnt coping mechanisms in early life.
Whilst it might have served you well then, you may be receiving signals that it no longer serves your emotional and psychological needs today. So, when a persistent unhelpful response grows and starts impacting your behaviour, thoughts, emotions, self-worth, lifestyle or relationships, you know when it's time to take a different approach.
Clients often arrive feeling or experiencing one or more of the following:
Do you feel anxious, depressed, sad?
There is no one specific point in life when you might expect to need therapy. You might struggle with depression, anxiety or perhaps difficulty containing your anger or stresses at work. Perhaps you have an addiction? Or feel like you’ve lost meaning in your life?
Choosing to start therapy is the first step. The most important thing is to find the right therapist for you - someone you feel comfortable with enough to speak freely and who has experience in your area of need.
“Not until we are lost do we begin to find ourselves.”
-Thenry David Thoreau
Psychotherapy can help you to feel more balanced by experiencing a trusted space to feel heard and understood
You may have a goal in mind for what you'd like to change and how you'd like to experience aspects of life differently. If not that's ok - it's something we can work on together.
I provide a private and reflective space for you to ....
Identify, unpack and process the issues at the forefront of your mind with a natural ability to:
- Collaborate with people to set goals and help them reach them
- Explain mental health symptoms in an easy to understand way
- Inspire hope for getting better
- Help clients heal their past and manage the present
People who know me often say that I am a good listener who can sit with people, at times when life may feel painful and overwhelming.
My approach is flexible to meet your needs
I offer counselling and psychotherapy methods of working according to our area of focus from behavioural (such as habit formation) to depth therapeutic work (such as patterns and associations from early life to now). Our focus is to identify the roots of your unhelpful responses and triggers and in doing so, breaking the spell of these old patterns. In doing so, clients find they can foster new levels of self-awareness, acceptance, self-regulation and coping strategies, offering you the potential to move beyond limiting systems of belief.
In conjunction with my clinical knowledge and therapeutic skills, I am able to weave in creative approaches to help our work along from a fresh perspective, also offering a variety of theoretical approaches to suit your needs which including early life development, self-actualisation, growth and development, dreams and archetypal patterns. Part of my training included working energetically, so I do offer the chance to shift into creative gears using breath regulation, relaxation and grounding exercises, working with your dreams as a snapshot of your inner life and general awareness of your energy balance.
Our sessions are focused on you
Sessions will provide you with the space to be understood and heard. In feeling safe and comfortable, you'll be able to gain clarity and figure things out about yourself.
It's important to me to check in on your progress as we go and ensure that the process is collaborative.
There isn't a "one size fits all" approach to Psychotherapy & Counselling. Our sessions will fit your specific needs and concerns.
As a psychotherapist,
I embrace the following philosophies:
- I believe that we only heal if we take care of ourselves.
- I believe that therapy should address the person as a whole - their mind, body, and spirit.
- I believe that the biggest thing standing in your way is the fear that life always has to be the way that it is now.
- I believe that Harville Henrix was right when he said, "We are born in relationship, we are wounded in relationship and we can be healed in relationship".
Online Couples Counselling & Psychotherapy
Let's be honest - relationships can be hard work at times.
Most people who start Online Couples Counselling & Psychotherapy feel like they are stuck in a negative cycle unable to move forward. Perhaps you can relate. Maybe you feel like you want to escape your life or you know you'd be happier if you made changes but it feels safer and more comfortable to stay the same.
Stuck in negativity and feeling miserable all the time, you may feel like life is being spent on worrying all the time.
“The truth about our intimate relationships is that they can never be any better than our relationship with ourselves.”
–James Hollis
Do you feel miserable, stressed, hopeless?
Do any of the following resonate with you?
- You fight all the time with your partner.
- You think the relationship has changed for the worse since having children.
- You feel lonely, even when you are with others.
- You are stuck in patterns of disagreement which have become unbearable.
- You've noticed that the spark in your relationship is gone.
If any of this sounds true for you, you might feel embarrassed to open up about what you’re really going through, even to family and friends. Therapy provides a non-judgemental space for you and your partner to talk freely about what’s bothering you.
You don’t have to keep putting it off, relationships need work and core skills to survive life’s challenges – there is hope that it can get better.
“Conflict is growth trying to happen.”
-Harville Hendrix
Online Couples Counselling & Psychotherapy can help you break the cycles of anxiety and stress
I have deep respect and awareness of the process a couple goes through long before committing to come to Online Couples Counselling & Psychotherapy. It takes enormous courage for both parties to take this step and I honour it. I also believe that we don’t choose our partners by accident, and for that reason, conflict and relationship difficulties can offer opportunities for healing and growth for each of you as individuals as well as for your relationship.
It’s possible to feel better. Imagine a life where you could...
- Stop worrying and fighting all the time and learn how to survive differences in relationship.
- Feel freer and safer in your relationship.
- Improve your relationship with yourself and those you choose to share yourself with.
- Have the loving relationships you've always wanted.
- Break the cycle and change your relationship for the better.
Build the loving relationships you've always wanted
Online Couples Counselling & Psychotherapy helps you rise above your challenges and start moving towards your ideal life with less fighting, better communication and negotiation, and more loving.
You will get you the effective skills you need to feel safer in your relationships and see patterns that you couldn't on your own.
Even if you are not sure if your problem is serious enough, Online Couples Counselling & Psychotherapy may be able to help. I have clients who as parents want to separate ‘well enough’ with their children in mind and don’t know how to do it on their own. I've also helped couples on the brink of divorce rediscover what made them fall in love in the first place. Through connecting and communicating, couples have been able to get the spark back and fall in love all over again.
How online Couples Counselling & Psychotherapy works
Online Couples Counselling & Psychotherapy consists of 60-minute, one-on-one sessions weekly or fortnightly depending on your presenting issues, that help you work through your concerns. In addition to listening, I will ask questions, support with containment and coach new skills to support the relationship, I play an active role.
Here’s how it will work step-by-step:
First, I provide a safe, accepting space so that you will feel comfortable sharing your struggles with me.
Through assessing your client intake form and conducting the initial session to hear more about the story of your relationship, I will start to get a picture of what your challenges are.
We will start with helping you with immediate concerns like managing difficult emotions and communication.
We will also work to discover what your relationship goals are in therapy and in life.
Keeping your unique goals in mind, we’ll figure out what’s needed to help you reach them.
Over the course of our sessions, you will start making progress towards the life you desire.
Research shows that Couples Counselling & Psychotherapy can positively change your thinking, beliefs, emotions, and behaviours. It can help you let go of what’s holding you back. I can talk to you further about my approach and answer any questions you may have in my free consultation offered to potential new clients.
“We are born in relationship, we are wounded in relationship, and we can be healed in relationship.”
-Harville Hendrix